I know people that like to eat their dinner salad before their entrée and others who like to eat their salad near the end of their meal.  Some people prefer buying outfits as they enter a season, to show that they’re trend-savvy and fashionable.  Others like to purchase outfits at the end of a season, when they’re likely to be sold at a big discount.  Grieving the loss of a child or young person seems to be harder than saying good-bye to a loved one that has lived a long life.  Most people have strong convictions about what is the right order of things, and this affects how a person might process their grief.  Can you think of any type of experience where when you have it matters as much or more than the event itself?  How do you feel when something happens at just the right time?