I was approaching an all too familiar bottleneck, driving north along Western Avenue where two lanes merge into one for road repairs.
I had already played through the options in my mind. Can I avoid the construction zone by turning west earlier, or would the extra mileage in this work-around take me out of my way so far that the move would be no better than creeping along in traffic for a few blocks?
My windows were sealed shut. The volume on my radio was dialed up. The air conditioner was on, the fan engaged, and the dashboard vents directed the cool air to my neck. But no doubt about it, I wasn’t happy.
Then I looked at the nearby cars, also preparing for the less than delicate dance of metal; drivers waving other cars to insert themselves ahead of them or move up to practically kiss the car in front of them just to prevent such an accommodation.
I glanced at a nearby car.
A dog sat in the back seat of a late model SUV staring out an open window. The pup seemed to be medium-sized, some sort of combination of breeds. He was breathing a little quickly but was otherwise chill.
With the recent news about record-setting temperatures in the UK, heat-related deaths in Portugal and drought conditions in Italy, I considered myself lucky that I was just experiencing the typical discomforts of summer. Humidity and road construction.
Still, I was caught up ruminating on the inconvenience of the slowdown to MY LIFE…
… Until I saw this dog peering out a car window.
I don’t know why — I see dogs doing every conceivable activity with their human companion all the time — but the sight surprised me. I had to smile.
In general, I enjoy being surprised.
Being surprised brings me into a state of humility. It is liberating to be okay with not knowing something, with not being able to control things.
I experienced surprise when I saw the dog’s face peering out of the car window initially because I didn’t expect to see anything except the faces of exasperated drivers stuck in traffic.
But, I experienced another, deeper, level of surprise.
I felt more “human,” more appreciative of my humanity by taking in the dog’s face and vibe than I have by sitting around a campfire or chanting with people who I might think of as my tribe.
I know there’s a connection between the words themselves; human, humor and humble. They all come from the Latin word, humus, which mean humanity.
While doing online research on these words, I came across the words of Pastor Ted Loder (from the Danish Lutheran Church in Southern California “Laughter is a holy thing It is as sacred as music and silence and solemnity, maybe more sacred. Laughter is like a prayer, like a bridge over which creatures tiptoe to meet each other. Laughter is like mercy. It heals. When you can laugh, at yourself, you are free.”
Beyond my laughter at the present tense joy in the unexpected, in observing the dog’s state, I took special delight in contemplating my very human life.
The dog was content looking at the world. He was open to what he experienced. He didn’t stress about traffic or whatever happened around him. He just took it all in.
He poked his head out of the window to feel what was available to feel.
Of course, people’s lives are more complex. We make agreements with each other all the time. We stress about whether our intentions and desires are clearly understood and whether we can keep our agreements.
Integrity is an important aspect of how I want to live, but I can easily forget the importance of staying OPEN. Dogs don’t forget.
While I may retreat into the predictability and comfort of air conditioning and streaming a TV show, my dog would always choose to go for a walk or sit on my deck and feel actual breezes tickle her fur. She would find delight in the different scents that waft by or the sounds of passing trains.
Opening the window is no small thing.
What a great post! A dog’s face can tell a lot too. My experience is somewhat different but related. I am trying loving kindness when I drive instead of roller derby. What often happens is I see a car then I see a dog in the back or window. I have whole different felling about the other car with puppy on board. Dogs are humanizing. thanks.